First Step to Nailing Mr Right

Ughhh! is it too much to ask for a good-looking smart successful faithful man? Actually you havent asked for much and there's plenty of alpha men out in the world looking for a girl like you. You say "No anna all I've dated were jerks and little mamas boys good for nothing, feeling like taylor swift and writing a song of all of this fools Ive dated!" Well let me tell ya, Taylor Swift is a very famous singer because there's a million girls she can relate to. Goes to say you're not the only girl whose dated a loser. Let's all be adults and called them by what they are! Plain out loud losers, right?  Now that I've agreed with the clear picture of your exes being complete dummies and thinking this post will be all about how right you were and how stupid those boys were for treating such a great independent beautiful girl so badly! Well pardon me baby doll, but you're wrong. This post will be about how dumb you were for even getting involve with such losers. Jaw drops, you totally hate me now! Its okay hate me, but I sure will tell you what you did wrong and how from this point on you can only score great catches. Find a man that you can truly love and that will love you back as well. Awww look at you? You love me again! No more coming over to your girlfriends house and complaining about your ex or how your existing relationship is more work then leg day with your bootcamp trainer.

Ill be breaking down this relationship blogs in series. Hoping it will make it easier and I'll feel like I won't be all over the place and make it as simple as possible. Im not writing no novel, always thought it was silly to see relationship books titled "find mr right" and had like a gazillion chapters...um no thanks.

  Thats what women would like to think, but the truth is men are by far the simplest creatures in the world. Why? Because they aren't women of course! See a man will tell you if they feel cold or hot.."I'm gonna turn on the A/C its hot" not "do you feel a little warm I think I might have to take off this hot sweater..yeah it's probably my sweater? or is it just me acting crazy thinking is a little warm? it could be just me? yeah its me!"  Im sure the second phrase you can easily relate to, or you've heard your girlfriends said common words. There's nothing wrong with that, we are girls we are coded like this no biggie. My point is how simple men are and how they like to keep their surroundings as simple as possible and how us women are more complicated, over think situations making things more complex then simpler. "What if he actually meant he isn't ready for a relationship cause he doesn't want to get his heart broken? I wont break his heart ! yeah thats what he really means!!"
Wrong! his saying his not ready for a relationship! means he doesn't want a relationship. Yet even you're saying "um Anna this is really all common sense I know this!" Then tell me why do you complain about your guy everyday to your girlfriends? Why do you have a sick feeling of not really trusting your man? Why do check his Facebook his Instagram and notice he likes and comments on other girls profiles? Why doesn't he want to meet your family, why doesn't he want to be official, why doesn't he show affection towards you around all of his friends? Why doesn't he send flowers, why doesn't he tell you he loves you, and if he tells you he loves you why do you still feel unlove? Ahem!!! you better keep reading this post honey cause I will tell you the one thing you should look for to save you from all of this unnecessary heartache.

luxury while giving back..

How ambitious are you? Where do you picture yourself in 10 years? Pretend that in your life you weren't meant to have children or a husband. So cross those out. Now what do you picture your happy life to be without kids or a husband. Do you picture exceeding in your career and becoming the CEO? We all know that with that title you can imagine all the great rewards that come from hard work which are nice cars a very nice house. Maybe  being an Angelina Jolie helping out charities since you have more then plenty to go around. You will like to travel to the coolest places on earth and see and experience luxeries resorts. Or maybe your vision is to settle in a cute small home in your hometown live a more simpler live yet still be able to help people but the really nice cars or nice house isn't too important. You will love to travel but it doesn't have to be in 5 star resort as long as you get out of town you're okay with that! Why are you asking me this anna? Well the first step to finding mr right is knowing where YOU are heading, what YOUR  goals are in life and what kind of lifestyle those goals will bring you.  It is absolutely vital that your Mr right has those similar goals in life. The same amount of ambition as you. Aims for that same type of lifestyle aims for the same type of morals to get you to that lifestyle not only aims but his being proactive about it! In other words working on a daily basis to achieve those goals.


If you meet a great guy and he makes you laugh and the chemistry is amazing but his goals are far from yours, this relationship will fail. He isn't attending school and his okay with not attending his okay with working for someone else his okay with the 9-5 shift. He really doesn't know where he sees himself in 5 years or  he sees himself in 5 years in the same exact place which to him is a happy place. My favorite is the one who does a lot of talking saying he sees success in his future yet is doing nothing on the daily to make that happen. Talkers not walkers. In the other hand, if your goals are going to school nailing a great job eventually working yourself to the top and see yourself so far ahead in 5 years? Its clear you two have different goals in life. So therefore this relationship will not work! I promise you!

"But Anna his so funny and I havent laughed like that in ages and he kisses me so softly and tells me I'm beautiful and dont get me started with those blue eyes! And he dresses so swag!"  This and all his swagger will fade away when you see yourself busting your ass getting yourself through school pulling extra hours. While he is just cruising on easy lane which we all know can get you so far. You will become frustrated you will become bitchy you will insult him disrespect him and will accomplished the 3 top things of "what not to do to a man." Why? Because men are coded to be the provider they are coded to be the leader. When a man doesn't feel respected or not worthy of he will feel insecure what do insecure people do? They cheat or lead to more destructive actions. He will no longer make you laugh he will no longer kiss you softly he will no longer make you happy his got no more swag! So there you go the answer to why a loser cheated on you. Its a downward spiral effect when you date a man with different ambition as you do. So before you spend more time with this guy who obviously views the world so differently then you, just walk away. His made it quite simple for you to see this. Do not over think it, you can't change this man. Do not complicate the obvious the simplicity of how clear as water it is that he is not as ambitious as you are. Theres many men who have the same amount of ambitious as you do, so many!

Remember that a relationship is an investment. An investment of your time your energy your future. You cannot get back all of those years you willingly wasted in relationship with someone that has different views of the world and whom doesnt hustle like you do. A relationship is about holding hands kissing making passionate love right? Yes but its so much more too! You need to be a person that looks at the bigger picture in life. Don't be the person thats looks at what feels good now and neglect what the future holds when you keep aimlessly going about your day. This person you're dating spending time with could possibly be the father of your children he will meet your family he will be the living soul that you will share your most valuable possession, your time. Every energy that you spend on something has an affect everything that you do on a daily will cause a ripple to the big dreams you want to reach. So why waste your energy and time on the wrong investment?  Not only are you wasting time but you are blinding yourself from the right person. Even if you are not looking for something serious still only date guys with the same goals . You will learn and grow with this individuals you will not grow and learn anything from people who do not see the big picture in life.
 

This was on our my 2nd date. Since day one we talked about our visions...I fell in love

So no making things more complicated then they are. You like the guy he likes you, does he have the same visions as you? If not, move on! Keep on striding instead of wasting your time on him go do something that will help you reach your goals.  Maybe instead of heading over to sit and watch a full season of a nonsense show with mr wrong, you go to the gym and maybe will spot a  man who obviously is doing something way more productive then sitting at home doing nothing!

Hoping my blog helps you girls! My next post will be tips on where to find all this Mr Rights!